Happy Father's Day Dad...You just don't realize how much we miss you not just today but every day of the year....Hindi na rin siguro magtatagal at magkikita rin tayo diyann...hintayin mo ak.
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WHAT CANCER CAN’T DO -
It cannot cripple love;
It cannot shatter hope;
It cannot corrode faith;
It cannot destroy confidence;
It cannot kill friendship;
It cannot shut out memories;
It cannot silence courage;
It cannot invade the soul;
It cannot reduce eternal life;
It cannot quench the spirit.
July 31, 1946 - October 23, 2008
This parting reminds me a lot of the grief I also felt when my dad died... You can never prepare yourself enough for the searing pain it leaves behind.... I used to wonder if I would ever fill an emptiness.. a hollow... a deep hole within my being.. being left bare of the security enveloped in a fathers embrace.
Everytime I recall moments with Tito Bede.. they always make me smile... 'coz most of them I see my father share a good laugh with him. Whenever my dad go to Manila or Tito Bede comes here in Iloilo, basta may bulang sang manok... updanay na sila!!! No matter where dad drags him .. no matter how tiring... no problem.. hehe..you'll probably see him
catch his zzzzz....wherever.......whenever..cowboy!!
My deepest condolences to Tita Baby... I know mere words cannot heal your sorrow but me and mom just want you to know that we love you and we will always be here for you.
Irish, Ivy and jet ... as a daughter having known how difficult and painful this is...I just want to send you my warmest hug... just hang in there... welcome the sorrow but strive for the strength to go thru life armed with your dads lessons, humor and wonderful ideals... Here's a poem I made for my dad Bienvenido Celisio Jr. that I also want to share to Tito Bede...
Daddy
I want to cry Dad
For you, for what might be, for what should have been
Lift me up and keep me in your tender loving hug
Wipe aways these tears
I miss you so much
Strong, brave and loving
Worries are at bay
I feel safe when you're here Dad
Courage for Life
Strength for Love
Peace of Mind
I just feel thankful
for the life lessons you've left me
they make me strong now
I feel like you're always here beside me
I fear nothing
I'll always have you and mom in my heart
I have just understood
God just loves you so
I must let you go, Dad
I love you
I miss you
Bede Benedicto Nobleza Layador
Marlatt Funeral Homes
713 Central Ave. N.
Kent, WA 98032
253.852.2620
http://marlattfuneralhome.com/
| Visitation: |
Saturday - October 25, 2008 - 2:00 to 5:00 pm Sunday - October 26, 2008 - 2:00 to 5:00 pm |
| Funeral Service: | Sunday - October 26, 2008 - 5:00 to 6:00 pm |
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A TRIBUTE
Bede hailed from Janiuay,
To his family and friends, he was always called Bede. But to the younger ones, he was Manong Bede. Manong is a Filipino prefix that one uses as a sign of respect. To his nieces and nephews, he was Tito Bead (Uncle Bead). Copying Irish, his daughter, Wal-Mart coworkers called him Daddy.
Bede moved to
He liked to collect hats and clothes, especially jackets; he owned at least 25 of them. He was always a snappy dresser who favored beige and brown. Breads and sweets were his addiction. In the hospital, he had a stash of bread which he would eat when the doctor was not looking. Because of his diabetes, he was asked to lay off starch and he would lie to the doctor when asked if he ate bread.
Luena & Bede
AS A HUSBAND
Bede is married to Ret. Police Senior Superintendent Luena Layador. They met in 1966 in
The rest is history. They dated for 8 years and finally married in 1974. They were blessed with their first offspring, Ivy, in 1976. Jett soon followed in 1977. Just when they thought they were through having babies, Irish was born 8 years later.
Bede was a very loving and loyal husband.
Jett, Luena, Bede, Irish, Ivy
AS A FATHER
Daddy was a quiet disciplinarian. A man of few words who when he spoke, we listened. We could ignore Mom all we wanted, but once Daddy opened his mouth, we would stand at attention. At work, when Daddy spoke more than two words to a coworker, they felt honored to be spoken to because his usual answer was a grunt. When we were growing up, he made himself the designated lunch-maker; the usual menu was adobo with eggs, pork chop with hotdog, and the never-ending pancit canton.
Though he was a disciplinarian, he was also flexible enough to allow us to choose our own paths with words of encouragement. He guided us through life and school, from helping us on our difficult math problems to simple stuff, like feeding the dogs and making the perfect pot of rice.
Despite how bad we would be at times, Daddy would show us unconditional love. He was always very supportive and loyal, putting his family first at all times. We are very fortunate and appreciative that he was such a good provider and father to us all our lives. We love him very much and he’s always in our hearts. He’s our number one superhero!
Ely, Flora, Bede
AS A BROTHER
Bede was the brother of Emma Estandarte, Baltazar Layador, Flora Franco, Eliseo Melancio, and Rosemary Nobleza. He was the brother they could rely on, whether he was needed for a simple ride to the store or to be the listening ear in rough times. He also was their mom’s favorite, which caused a little jealousy amongst the siblings. He always received the first dibs on things, like food and toys. This, however, did not affect his personality at all. It actually has a positive effect because it made him the person he was today—very caring, very humble and appreciative—which is why his brothers and sisters could never be too angry with him. In fact, his brother, Bal, ended up asking Bede to join him in Manila, taking him under his wing and guiding him to success.
KIND AND GENTLE
He was respected because of his acts of kindness. He never said no when someone needed help and was always looking for more ways to help out. They called him the “Jack of All Trades” because if it was broken, he would find the economical way to fix it. He was also very fond of animals; he was very patient with them. His second favorite TV channel, after the Filipino Channel, was Animal Planet.
His gentle ways with animals also applied to his garden. He was able to grow a garden of vegetables in the backyard despite the unusual weather in
LOVING AND CARING
Bede’s fondness for animals and gardens never took precedence over the love of his family and friends. He never has anything bad to say about anyone except those kontrabidas (villains) in the soap operas. He accepted the mistakes of his loved ones, but didn’t tolerate stubbornness. Thus, he would set morals and fair rules at home, but didn’t set unfair demands. With his grandchildren, nieces, and nephews, he would go out of his way to entertain them. Bede couldn’t help but take joy in their laughter.
Bede had a quiet way about him, but a simple grin or a grunt meant a thousand endearing words. Through the battles with cancer, Bede was a fighter. His love for his friends and family urged him on to be strong, and though the his illness was taking a stronger hold of him, he would not give up the fight without making sure that everyone he loved knew that he still thought of them, loved them, and would forever be there for them. In this world of chaos, God blessed us with this quiet, loving soul that became the calm of all our storms.
"Those we love don’t go away,
They walk beside us everyday,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear."
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Latest Memories
| Mommy |
| Ivy |
Happy Happy Birthday Daddy! We MISS you and we LOVE you!!
| Ivy |
Happy Father's Day Daddy! I love you and I miss you very very much.
| Charmaine Celisio |
This parting reminds me a lot of the grief I also felt when my dad died... You can never prepare yourself enough for the searing pain it leaves behind.... I used to wonder if I would ever fill an emptiness.. a hollow... a deep hole within my being.. being left bare of the security enveloped in a fathers embrace. Everytime I recall moments with Tito Bede.. they always make me smile... 'coz most of them I see my father share a good laugh with him. Whenever my dad go to Manila or Tito Bede comes here in Iloilo, basta may bulang sang manok... updanay na sila!!! No matter where dad drags him .. no matter how tiring... no problem.. hehe..you'll probably see him
catch his zzzzz....wherever.......whenever..cowboy!!
My deepest condolences to Tita Baby... I know mere words cannot heal your sorrow but me and mom just want you to know that we love you and we will always be here for you.
Irish, Ivy and jet ... as a daughter having known how difficult and painful this is...I just want to send you my warmest hug... just hang in there... welcome the sorrow but strive for the strength to go thru life armed with your dads lessons, humor and wonderful ideals... Here's a poem I made for my dad Bienvenido Celisio Jr. that I also want to share to Tito Bede...
Daddy
I want to cry Dad
For you, for what might be, for what should have been
Lift me up and keep me in your tender loving hug
Wipe aways these tears
I miss you so much
Strong, brave and loving
Worries are at bay
I feel safe when you're here Dad
Courage for Life
Strength for Love
Peace of Mind
I just feel thankful
for the life lessons you've left me
they make me strong now
I feel like you're always here beside me
I fear nothing
I'll always have you and mom in my heart
I have just understood
God just loves you so
I must let you go, Dad
I love you
I miss you
| Ivy , Jhett, Irish |
Prayer for Our Daddy
Lord, please bless our Daddy,
the man who means so much to us,
who is greatly responsible
for who we are and who we are becoming.
Bless him for having the courage
to do what’s necessary to keep us out of trouble,
for making us do the right thing,
for helping us build our character,
even when it makes us angry;
and bless him for pushing us to do our best,
even when he just wants to love us.
Bless our Daddy for being our protector,
for leading us through stormy times to safety,
for making us believe that everything will be all right
and for making it so.
Bless our Daddy for quietly making a living
to provide for those he loves most,
for giving us food, clothing, shelter
and the other material things that really matter,
for unselfishly investing time and money in us
that he could have spent on himself.
Bless our Daddy, Lord,
for saving some energy for fun,
for leading us on adventures
to explore the outer reaches of ourselves,
for making us laugh,
for being our playmate and our friend.
Bless our Daddy, Lord,
for the unconditional love he has shown us,
Bless our Daddy Lord,
for facing this last calvary,
showing us how strong he is,
for fighting til the very end.
Bless him for being our secure foundation, our rock,
for holding on tight to us...until it’s time to let us go.
Lord, bless this man we look up to,
our role model, our hero, the love of our life,
our Daddy.
Latest Condolences
| ellen and yen develleres | condolence | December 4, 2008 |
our condolence to your family'
| Gia Garcia | He lives.... | November 28, 2008 |
Dear Tita Lue, Ivy, Jett & Irish,
My Mom and I are one with you in prayer. I remember the time I first met Tito Bede. Boy, was i scared!! All i got from him was a grunt and a nod. He was the silent type that when he uttered his first complete sentence directed at me, I was shocked and glad at the same time. When my brother passed on, Ivy gave me a copy of a poem which helped me through the the early years and continue to do so up to this day. Let me return the favor and share it with you with the hope that it will, in some way, give you comfort that it gave me.
Do not stand in my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints of snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
Tito Bede lives forever in all our hearts.
xox
My Mom and I are one with you in prayer. I remember the time I first met Tito Bede. Boy, was i scared!! All i got from him was a grunt and a nod. He was the silent type that when he uttered his first complete sentence directed at me, I was shocked and glad at the same time. When my brother passed on, Ivy gave me a copy of a poem which helped me through the the early years and continue to do so up to this day. Let me return the favor and share it with you with the hope that it will, in some way, give you comfort that it gave me.
Do not stand in my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints of snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
Tito Bede lives forever in all our hearts.
xox
| GROUP HEALTH COOPERATIVE | DEEPEST SYMPATHY | November 16, 2008 |
Luena,My heart goes out to you and your family in your loss.I will remember Bede as a gentle quiet soul, I am grateful for the brief tune ht a i knew him and will miss him also - Shannon Johnson M.D.
Luena ,I am so sorry for you loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you . - Alice Kent LPN
You are in our prayers -Robin Lake LPN
I am sorry to hear about you loss, my deepest sympathy. - T Lryanarachee
sorry to hear about your loss - Judy, Michelle, Bernice, Darlene
| Pam Fox | Friend of Family | November 12, 2008 |
My Dearest Friend Irish (Lil' Lady 2 me) & Mrs. Irish,
How LUCKY, and how BLESSED 2 have been able to know your sweet family, and remembering "Mr. Irish" I remember his gentle quietness , and he always made me feel welcome! He had so much PRIDE in what I saw him doing: Tending to his flowers when I would come to pay a visit, when he made the front walkway with the bricks he laid just so. I remember him laughing at something funny on TV, and how he enjoyed playing with his family the "tile" game at the holidays! I knew, even before he went to be with our LORD, how VERY MUCH his family meant to him, the PRIDE he had in them, and the pride I saw his family has 4 him was unlike anything I have seen in my lifetime, even being a nurse. YES, even though I am not Filipino, I could see that, and ALL the LOVE that surrounded him even on his last days. . .I remember his COURAGE. . .his family that stood by him, and with him. . .
I was HONORED to be part of his last days as a I hope, a comfort to my VERY SPECIAL FRIEND IRISH, and "Mama," and to have been able to hold his hand, and tell him what an awesome job he had done with the LEGACY he was leaving of his life behind, all the LOVE, HONOR and lessons he had taught his family and HOW MUCH he would really be missed, that that his family would be alright. . .and that it was OK to go. . .He was resting very peacefully that last night I was there, his loving & beautiful daughter Irish gently stoking his forehead, and holding his hand, talking to him, and calling him "Daddie."
There is no greater loss, or painful than losing a parent, or a child, and I will NEVER forget Mr. Irish or the INCREDIBLE life he had even though he left too soon. His family is so BLESSED to have SO MANY WONDERFUL pictures of SO MANY times together, and those pictures, those memories will ALWAYS remain in your hearts-FOREVER, and comfort you when U miss him. They will be the stories U tell your children, and grandchildren of what an INCREDIBLE, & SPECIAL MAN, FATHER, HUSBAND, BROTHER, FRIEND he TRUELY was. You keep his memory ALIVE, his HONOR by caring on what he gave to his family, his friends. . .
Someday you will be together again in HEAVEN. GOD must have needed a VERY SPECIAL MAN to have taken Mr. Irish. Heaven is LUCKY, and we are BLESSED!
MY heart is with U Lil' Lady, & Mama Irish.
I LOVE U! Thank you so much 4 letting me have you in my life, for I am BLESSED!
Your Other "Mama"
| FRIENDS FROM CHDF | To comfort you... | November 8, 2008 |
The special man who guided you
and taught you
and in all your hours of need
was standing by,
this man who made you smile
and laugh so often
would never, ever
want to make you cry
So even in this time
of separation,
surely he would want
your heart to be
cheered by thoughts
of just how much he loved you....
how close he'll always stay
in memory...
With deepest sympathy,
Ivy's Friends at CHDF, Dobbs Ferry, New York
*Dr White, Dr Silberman, Maria G, Marie, Monna, Sharon, Jean, Tita, Dulcie, Beverly, Lida, Sally, Lucy, Marion, Lesly, Susan, Ann, Pat (Emergency Department, Medical-Surgical Unit, Registration and Admissions Department)
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